I am sitting at a restaurant for lunch with a friend, right across my table there is family of four having theirs. In between a “Homeless” comes asking for some pennies. Instead she offers him to choose any food he would like from the dishes spread at their table. He refuses and leaves.
I let my friend know what I saw and the response is he shouldn’t have said no. Aren’t he begging for money to probably buy food and drink? I say maybe wasn’t hungry n it was leftover food.
My father is taking an evening stroll comes across an old man begging, he gives him a coin of Rs.2. That man throws the coin on the ground and says “What can I buy with this?”.
My father picks up the coin “For you this might have no value, but it’s my hard earned money. I will surely respect it even if its just Rs.2.”
I don’t think after this episode my father gives money to anyone asking for it……
If I have think on the issue of begging and beggars/homeless, these were either fed in my mind or derived from experiences n readings, because I can’t point to one specific thing for my conclusions:
1) Don’t give money to young ones, because then you are letting them get easy money without working hard for it. So they will keep begging even if they are fit enough to do some form of labour.
2) Don’t give money to kids, because its of no use, they don’t use it for themselves and this gives rise to child trafficking.
3) Don’t give money to any homeless of any age group, because they don’t use money to buy food, they actually use them for alcohol or drugs which kills them.
And frankly from a very long time I have been abiding these rules of mine. I refuse to give money.
But in this process at times I feel what if there are genuine people suffering, those not taken care by charitable organisations?
What if there is some who actually sleeps hungry for nights?.
Can we be absolutely sure, that these people especially kids, elderly n handicapped have a choice not to beg?.
And if they are begging do they still have rights to decide what they want or not? Do they have the right to choose?
Anyway I use to give biscuits to kids in India, and here in UK thankfully there are no kids on the streets; so buy and give sandwiches. Not always, sometimes and in rare occasions; one refused n said doesn’t like sandwiches and another asked for drinks instead…
If possible do let me know your views too. Am I right in what I am doing or am I adding fuel to this system?